[BQ Hero Series] Reducing Burnout by Masking Less, with Kieran Rose

Welcome back to the Bright & Quirky Hero Series, a series of vlogs featuring bright and quirky adults who set the example of neurodiverse flourishing.

In this episode, Kieran Rose, founder of The Autistic Advocate, explains that masking is when a person projects a version of themselves that isn’t really them.

Masking requires a tremendous amount of energy that can easily lead to burnout. According to Kieran, having healthy control over routines is key to minimizing masking and burnout for autistic children.

Take a listen.

What's bubbling up for you after hearing this vlog? Let us know in the comments section below.


  1. Lynn Anderson on November 12, 2021 at 3:44 am

    I love how Kieran explains that we all do masking and that minorities and people that are differently abled have to mask to fit other’s expectations of them. This explains why each individual should be treated individually and we should stop putting people into diagnosis boxes and grouping people together. All of us are Bright and Quirky in our own way and shouldn’t be separated in like groups but allowed to just be ourselves.

  2. Katherine Marie Lyons on November 12, 2021 at 3:45 am

    Loved this. I need to put more things in place so I do not reach burn-out.
    As far as masking, it does take an enormous amount of energy to be someone you are not. As a parent and teacher, thank you for helping me realize that need to be on the lookout for this. I need to make sure I create an inclusive and accepting environment, with no pressure to feel one needs to hide certain things about themselves. Thank you for reminding me!!

  3. Sarah T on November 12, 2021 at 5:54 am

    That was really helpful. My 20yo adult son experienced autistic burnout this summer and we are working to understand what kind of help he needs from us to control his own life s much as possible while also learning how to help him figure out reliable structures and routines to help him get back his independence and autonomy. This perspective is so good- thank you. I learned a lot.

  4. Veneice Hamil on November 12, 2021 at 5:59 am

    Thanks for sharing. Shines a light on a matter that I was aware of but did not use the right words

  5. ASDMom on November 12, 2021 at 6:55 am

    As the mom of a 5 year old with ASD, our therapist suggested we set up routines for him to support his executive functioning. Then he can go through the checklists on his own without telling him every step. I imagine there is some kind of pathway toward giving him control over his routine a bit later?

  6. Tiffany on November 14, 2021 at 11:47 am

    Thank you for this very insightful and thoughtful vlog. Kieran sheds light on differences in conversation style – monologues vs back and forth and how he takes care of himself when he needs to converse in a way that is more neurotypical. Before seeing the vlog, I would not have thought that highly social settings — like classrooms might cause burn out. And from a timing perspective, l can now see why making time for monologues is important when working and living with children on the spectrum. Thank you again!!!

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