Your bright and quirky child may not be mainstream and there's no reason they can't have a beautiful life that fits the unique way their brain is wired.

To accomplish this, according to Dr. Dan Siegel, we may need to do the inner work of adjusting our expectations and even perhaps grieving what we originally had in mind for our kids.

Parent connection, acceptance and support is key.

Take a listen. . .


To learn more about Dr. Siegel's work, visit

Now we'd love to hear from you. What's bubbling up for you after hearing this vlog? Let us know in the comments section below!


  1. Petunia on December 23, 2020 at 12:19 pm

    My child is 19. How I wish someone had given me these concepts 17, 15, 10 or even 5 years ago. It’s been a long hard road with him.

    • Lauren+Hutchinson on December 23, 2020 at 10:43 pm

      Petunia, I am sad to hear it has been a hard journey. I relate to that. My boys are 18 and 20 now, and it was hard to hunt down specific information about twice exceptionality more than ten years ago. I am finding that it’s not too late to do the “inner work” Dr. Dan speaks of – of support, compassion, acceptance, and even grief – even though my kids are young adults. I wish you well on this new leg of the journey.
      Warm regards,
      Lauren with the BQ Team

  2. Britta on December 23, 2020 at 3:54 pm

    So true! We were lucky in that our daughter was diagnosed 2e in first grade (now in fourth) which has helped me as a neurotypical parent understand, accept and support her fully for who she is. It’s funny how teachers, doctors et al always assume she’s a difficult child to parent but I don’t find that to be the case at all – it’s a joy and I’m totally in awe of her! I wish I had her talents and passions 🙂

  3. Christina on December 23, 2020 at 6:23 pm

    Thank you! This is very validating, empowering and encouraging. “My child is not mainstream and they can still thrive..” It’s a daily practice to remind myself and release the pressure of them fitting a mold that doesn’t work. And that it’s ok to grieve some loss.

  4. Alli on February 16, 2021 at 4:59 pm

    Thank you for this poignant reminder. I think that the fear of our daughter not finding her place and surviving independently in the world is what drives our efforts to help her in the mainstream. She is 19 now, and it’s time to let go and truly believe in her fully as she steps out and makes it happen.

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