When a bright and quirky child has difficult behaviors, we need to ask, in the words of Dr. Stuart Shanker, "Why and why now?"
In this vlog, Dr. Stephen Porges unpacks his polyvagal theory which gives us important clues to answer these questions. Dr. Porges shares that when kids feel anxious, criticized or otherwise unsafe, their body goes into a defensive state.
When kids' nervous systems feel under threat, it's very difficult to be social, learn or problem solve because their body is telling them they're in danger. As Ross Greene says, your child isn't giving you a hard time. Your child is having a hard time.
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