The Righting Reflex vs Validation with Ned Johnson

Do you ever wonder how to be most effective when your child is upset?

Ned Johnson, co-author of What Do You Say? How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance and a Happy Home, says it’s a human reflex to try to problem solve when a child is upset. But logic won’t soothe your child’s hard feelings. Try this instead, which will likely help both you and your child feel better.

Take a listen.

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3 Comments

  1. Natasha Attard on May 6, 2022 at 7:16 am

    Makes sense. Listening, validating feelings and empowering kids.

  2. Christy on May 6, 2022 at 8:54 am

    Thanks! I really like the term “Righting Reflex”! I do it all the time with my husband and daughter but, I find I use validating statements with my students! Yikes! I have a new perspective.

  3. Kristina on May 14, 2022 at 7:05 am

    Absolutely important. Dealing with many issues with my very bright and depressed 14 y.o. who is split between 2 households- mom and dad. I have “RR” hard core, due to not being with him full time anymore. I feel like I need to “fix” things and find answers, and WHAT? I only have a few days a week to do this now! Big mistake. Going to be very careful about this. Thanks. Going to work on this very hard!

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