How to Avoid Solutions That Lead to More Stress, with Dr. Stuart Shanker

Does your child find ways to deal with stress that might feel good in the moment, but ultimately lead to more stress down the road? In this vlog, Dr. Stuart Shanker, DPhil unpacks the rise in maladaptive coping mechanisms in children and teens, the way media companies feed into it, and what parents can do about it.

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Now we'd love to hear from you. What's bubbling up for you after hearing this vlog? Let us know in the comments section below!


  1. Julia de Greff Ball on August 28, 2021 at 1:12 am

    Thank you. It’s good to have that made explicit.
    I’d like to hear more about what we can do, and better methods for dealing with stress.

  2. Samantha Davenport on August 28, 2021 at 3:01 am

    This is very relatable not only for children and teens, but adults too. Especially with addictive behaviours/tendencies.

  3. Jennifer on August 28, 2021 at 3:00 pm

    Any suggestions for increasing a tween’s awareness of this behavior — and how harmful it is? Right now, with the beginning of school, our tween is using online friends and a lot of silly video to wind down. But, they find it hard to stop for chores, dinner, etc. We have rules, but we’re also trying hard to make starting school a happier thing than it has been in the past.

  4. Maree Munn on August 28, 2021 at 10:20 pm

    Okay so I have four kids and interestingly its my two neurotypicals that seem more easily drawn into the social media world, although, my eldest who is ASC and ADHD (and an empath) now tells me she is becoming more aware of how harmful it can be. She tells me how easily she can be sucked into believing some stuff and that she can feel herself questioning her own ‘being’. The demands on ALL our children these days is so great.

    Thank you for defining ‘stress’ in medical terms. I sometimes struggle to explain to extended family what explain the elements that cause extreme stress levels in my children and am often dismissed with the response of “oh we all feel that from time to time”… Well here’s the rub Granny… no you don’t because it doesn’t stop you doing it anyway whereas my kids can freeze or fight when put in that situation!!!!

  5. Renuka Coghlan on August 29, 2021 at 7:08 am

    Thank you. I found this short clip so helpful in dealing with the challenges young children face today.
    I would be interested to hear more from Stuart Shanker.

  6. Maria Isabel De Rubiera on August 30, 2021 at 10:37 am

    I love the way Dr. Shanker explains the topic you have chosen and the implications on our children and kids. Technology is advancing so fast and we need how to avoid it affects our young community. Thank you

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