Overcoming a Downward Behavior Spiral with Dayna Abraham

Does your child easily become overwhelmed leading to behavioral outbursts?

In this video, Dayna Abraham, Founder of Calm the Chaos, discusses how heightened emotions and sensory overload often lead to dysregulation and a downward spiraling.

She shares a simple strategy parents can use after an outburst to help their children identify their environmental and internal triggers to empower future self-regulation and self-advocacy.

Take a listen.

Now we'd love to hear from you. What's bubbling up for you after hearing this vlog? Let us know in the comments section below!


  1. Jeanne on February 26, 2022 at 7:00 am

    Yes!—this is an important step in teaching our kids to advocate for themselves. I loved Debbie’s reference to a “post mortem.” I have learned these post mortem’s are my best tool for directing future change. In the moment of the spiral, we address immediate regulation needs. LATER, we dissect the spiral and co-problem solve around how it could go differently next time. When next time happens, we have a way of thinking about it that we’ve already explored. It’s never exactly the same, but after a while patterns emerge and your child starts to see them. Love it. Thanks!

  2. Annelie on March 1, 2022 at 2:25 am

    I really liked the idea of identifying the tipping point. It throws a neat bridge across the gap between problem and solution. I usually find it easy to see the big picture, which makes me a bit obsessed with “root causes”…

  3. Jessica on March 25, 2022 at 8:01 pm

    All of this exploration of sensory issues was so helpful. Hearing how her son advocated for himself was a good reminder to acknowledge and respect my boys when they advocate for themselves…even if it means retooling our plans for the day. Such good stuff here, thank you.

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