Perfectionism can be a joy killer, but there's a way to take control over it. Listen as "The Gifted Guru" Lisa Van Gemert shares her very personal story of the costs of perfectionism and how she tames it with a powerful strategy she uses almost every day.

To learn more about Lisa Van Gemert's work, visit www.giftedguru.com.

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  1. Beverly Pell on December 11, 2020 at 4:07 am

    Loved this clip, especially the end where she says, “Nothing at school is a 5.” I couldn’t agree more because that would cause so much anxiety and fear for not measuring up (to the teacher’s expectation.) I know it did for me. Her story about constantly erasing her writing on papers also resonated. When I reached high school I constantly rewrote my papers in ink–before the invention of erasable ink–and I remember throwing away countless numbers of paper even with 1/2-3/4 of the page filled; but when making a mistake…maybe even in the last sentence after writing 300 words, I would crumple it up and throw it on the ground. So.Many.Tears. I also found it interesting that my perfectionism could be interfering with making (and keeping) friends. My goals and expectations have always been high, and I never thought that my perfectionistic tendencies could be influencing my relationships with my family. This chat was very eye-opening. Thank you!

    • Lauren+Hutchinson on December 11, 2020 at 7:30 pm

      Hi Beverly,
      I am so glad you could resonate with Lisa Van Gemert’s words. I wish I had her words in my ears when I was in school, because I also related to everything needing to be a 5! We are grateful for Lisa’s honesty and wisdom, and we are grateful for you in sharing your own story about perfectionistic tendencies. Wishing you more joy!
      -Lauren with the BQ team

  2. M on December 11, 2020 at 11:48 am

    Lots to think about. Wow. “Nothing at school is a five.” Very helpful talk.

  3. Rachel Watt on December 11, 2020 at 1:15 pm

    “Nothing at school is a 5” Yes! That’s so validating, Thank you. I am going to use that quote every day 🙂

  4. eRiN yUeN, llmsw on December 12, 2020 at 2:55 am

    Wow – School is never a 5. My grad school advisors tried to relay this to me in a roundabout way but hearing it summed up like that really hits home. I need to get this down so that I can help my daughter who is currently suffering from perfectionism and OCD tendencies. I have to ask – On a side note – both of your bookshelves look immaculate. When I’ve read decorating tips from interior designers about color-coordinating your bookshelves, I always figured this was advice meant for non-readers who could order color-coordinated books from specialty stores as opposed to avid readers who already owned multiple bookshelves jam-packed with books. Clearly, the books on your shelves were purchased for reading and not decorating, but how did you manage to coordinate your books by color without creating a completely meaningless order where it’s impossible to find anything? It looks beautiful but is it user-friendly? Thanks.

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